He's up for some sort of sex-positive hoopla award, but seriously, anyone who makes statements like, "You wife thinks that facials are degrading because facials ARE degrading" is not sex-positive... he's just another judgmental douche bag who only sees sex play through a traditional and one-sided lens.
Just because he sucks cock does not give him the perspective of a woman, and just because his dude squirted him in the eye a few times, does not mean that he understands the myriad of feelings that can and do result from such intimate moments such as this. (I'm just going to stop this rant in it's tracks...)
So, on the point of Sex Advice columns and jizz, I'd like to point yall's attention to my fav gal who is now writing a sex advice column for Misbehave right here.
My favorite part of the first installation was the first comment:
I totally loled.
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ejaculation etiquette is a crucial and seldom talked about alliteration.
That's an interesting point, and I think her reply to that first comment sums up what you're talking about. In regards to dan savage, he definitely has a viewpoint that he is coming from (although I don't think you could call it traditional), but so does everyone. In the context of mainstream sex advice columns with a wide audience, he is comparatively sex-positive. I agree, though, that the statement "jizzing on her face is degrading" doesn't ring true, but it does for him, and that's where he writes from.
I totally agree with Dan Savage that cum on the face has an element of degradation, and that's the point of the act. But that doesn't mean that it's degrading to do it, any more than saying "Take it, you dirty slut" means you actually think your partner's a dirty slut.
What I am saying as seeing it as a degrading act.. and thats where the hotness comes from.. is closing out every other perspective that people can have for it...
Like it being hot because it's concentrated love-matter, why wouldn't you want to embrace that, if you are having sex with someone you love?
Sexual fluids are powerful, I'm not a part of a minority when I say this.
Semen shoudln't be viewed as garbage, something that needs to be cleaned away a disposed of like urine. It shouldn't be seen as dirty, it should be seen as sacred. bother partners helped produce it, it's not a waste product.
if you think of semen as a waste product, then yes, it IS degrading to get it smeared on your face. But if you see it as something positive, which you should if you are going to claim to be sex-positive, then this act wouldn't be degrading at all.
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